HAPPINESS IS A GAME OF WILLPOWER

We don’t know what marriage is when we say, “Will you marry me?” or “I do.”
Many people, old and young, believe that a happy marriage depends on whether you can choose the mysterious “right” one in hundreds of people around.

And if the marriage turns out not happy after months or years, they say it because the two people “wrong” or “not right” for each other. They’d lose faith in marriage after or carry on the journey to find the next mysterious “right” one.
It’s not about the “right” or the “wrong” person; it’s about both partners must have skills and awareness to meet the other’s ten basic emotional needs.

People, men and women, old and young, rank their needs according to their own priority, which changes continuously according to their stage of life. Unfortunately, the priority between men and women is exactly opposite. This means needs thought to be the most important ones by men are often listed as the least important ones by women, and vice versa.

Being “right” or “wrong” for someone depends not on the mysterious fate, but on the willingness and capability of both partners to continuously meet the other’s needs.

What if you are willing but don’t know how to do that for now? Fortunately, those skills can be learned, and awareness can be improved.
What if you have it all except for the willing? Bad news, there is nothing you can do about your marriage.

So, what matters is your willpower, not the mysterious fate.